I asked for help!

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Bay horse in wash rack with girl

Today I asked for help.  As I said in a previous post, I don’t think of myself as someone who self-sabotages.  But I am terrible at asking for help.  I don’t do it to be a martyr, or because I want to fail, but the result is that I don’t always enjoy things to the fullest extent possible because I am overwhelmed.

I have always defined the concept of self-sabotage as something people do because subconsciously, they don’t want to succeed.  I see now that I can desire success and still get in my own way.  Not asking for help is a BIG one for me.  I even wrote a blog post about it ten years ago.

As I mentioned, Landry and I are doing a clinic with a Sports Psychologist tomorrow.  We have the first two rides of the day, which start at 9am.  And so, I asked if someone could give the horses a bath for me this afternoon, when it is warmer. 

I do like to torture myself with the burden of it all.  Fanning the mental flames of “I can’t get it all done!” so that my whole body vibrates at a very high frequency and I need a glass of wine to knock back the anxiety. 

I also really like to do the work myself. There is satisfaction in presenting a beautifully turned-out horse.  But getting the teen up and out the door, hooking up the trailer, loading all the horses and equipment, then driving across town to a place we have never been will be enough hard work to provide satisfaction at the end of the day.  I feel good about asking for help so that I can be fully engaged in this learning opportunity.  I am going to try to be more open to asking for and receiving help going forward.

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